Tri-Valley Holds Award Ceremony

Austin Bolinger, Horticultural Therapist, Barbara McCord, recipient of the Winfred Jent Award, and Richard Longfellow.

 

On May Day, Friday, May 1st, Tri-Valley Developmental Services held their 2024 Award Ceremony celebrating achievements from individuals and community support in Allen, Bourbon, Chautauqua, Elk, Greenwood, Neosho, Wilson, and Woodson Counties.  The ceremony took place at 1 pm at the Central Park Pavilion in Chanute.  Awards were presented to the following:

 

Employer of the Year – Sonic Drive-In of Chanute and Niece Products of Fort Scott

Achievement Award – Ben Lewis, Matt Ornstein, and Gay Purdy

Ed Bideau Advocacy Award – Nikki Jacobs

Masterson Family Award – James Hogan

Friends of Tri-Valley Foundation Visionary Award – Max McReynolds

Winfred Jent Award – Barbara McCord

Lifetime Achievement Award – Knights of Columbus Council 1046 – Chanute

Employee of the Year Award – Roxann Maloney

 

Refreshments were served following the ceremony.

Obituary of Mary Ann Jamison

Mary Ann Jamison, age 90, a resident of Fort Scott, Kansas, died Wednesday, June 12, 2024 at her home. She was born October 15, 1933 the daughter of Delbert and Jessie Brown Bruce. She was a 1947 graduate of Mound City High School.

Mary Ann married Gene Jamison on April 14, 1955 at the home of her parents in Mound City. They moved to Fort Scott in 1964, where she was a stay at home mom until 1970. At that time she went to work for H-Way Heating and Air, now known as Stoughtons Plumbing Electric Heating and Air were she was employed for 45 years. Mary Ann was a member and treasure for the St. Johns United Methodist Church in Fort Scott.

Survivors include two daughters, Sharon Daly (friend Pete), Karen Brumback (Steve); 11 grandchildren, Jami Morgan (Tim), Jerry Morgan (Kori), Tori Kafer (Chris), Kolby Brumback (Mickah), Karlee Shoopman (Michael), Jessi Marsh (Zack), Amber Kelly (Matt), Aaron Daly (Jes), Justin Daly (Allison), Kodie Gillen (Ashley), Jake Gillen (Bailey); and A LOT of great-grandchildren

She was preceded in death by her husband Gene; parents; and infant daughter, Jana Louise Jamison, a daughter Jenni Kovacic; two grandsons, Hunter Kovacic, Joel Daly, an infant great-grandson, Kynden Gillen; a brother Bob Bruce; son-in-law, Jeff Daly, and a grandson-in-law, Justin Schulze.

Rev. Virgil Peck will conduct funeral services at 10:00 A.M. Tuesday June 18, 2024 at the Cheney Witt Chapel.

Burial will follow in the U.S. National Cemetery.

The family will receive friends from 5:00 – 7:00 P.M. Monday at the Cheney Witt Chapel.

Memorials are suggested to Care to Share and may be left in care of the Cheney Witt Chapel, 201 S. Main, P.O. Box 347, Ft. Scott, KS 66701.  Words of remembrance may be submitted to the online guestbook at cheneywitt.com.

Agenda for the FSCC Trustees For June 17

June 17, 2024
Board of Trustees
Fort Scott Community College
2108 S. Horton
Fort Scott, KS 66701

6.17.24 Consent Agenda
The Board of Trustees of Fort Scott Community College will meet in regular session on Monday, June
17, 2024. The meeting will be held in the meeting rooms of the Ellis Fine Arts Center at Fort Scott
Community College.
5:30 p.m. Regular monthly Board meeting
THE AGENDA
5:30 ROLL CALL, 3
PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE
CALL TO ORDER, 4
A. Comments from the Chair, 4
B. Comments from the Public, 4
CONSENT AGENDA, 5
A. Approval of Agenda, 5
B. Approval of Minutes of previous Regular Board Meeting conducted on May 20, 2024,
and Special Board Meetings conducted on May 23, 2024, and June 10, 2024, 6
C. Approval of Bills and Claims, 12
D. Approval of Personnel Actions, 6
ACTION ITEMS, 40
A. Resolution 2024 – 28: Consideration of Annual Camp Grant Laptop Purchase, 41
B. Resolution 2024 – 29: Consideration of KASB Worker’s Compensation Member
Participation Premium Agreement, 49
C. Resolution 2024 – 30: Consideration of 2024-25 Meeting Dates and Time, 49
D. Resolution 2024 – 31: Consideration of Property and Liability Insurance Quotes, 56
E. Resolution 2024 – 32: Consideration of Educational Assessments Corporation License
Renewal, 60
F. Resolution 2024 – 33: Consideration of Kone Elevator Repair Proposal, 62
REPORTS, 68
A. Administration
EXECUTIVE SESSION, 70
ADJOURNMENT, 711

A. APPROVAL OF AGENDA
B. APPROVAL OF MINUTES OF PREVIOUS MEETINGS
Attached are the minutes of the Regular Board Meeting conducted on May 20, 2024, and
Special Board Meetings conducted on May 23, 2024, and June 10, 2024.
C. APPROVAL OF BILLS and CLAIMS
Attached are the Bills and Claims Report.
D. APPROVAL OF PERSONNEL ACTIONS
1) Additions
a) Christopher Wheeler, Maintenance Technician, effective June 18, 2024
b) Jhawan Horton, Assistant Track and Field Coach, effective June 18, 2024
c) Toni Summers, Nursing Instructor, effective July 31, 2024
2) Separations
a) Kent Aikin, John Deere Technology Instructor, effective July 31, 2024
RECOMMENDATION: It is recommended that the Consent Agenda items be approved as
presented.ailey
_____ John Bartelsmeyer
_____ Jim Fewins
_____ Bryan Holt
_____ Chad McKinnis
_____ Doug Ropp3
CALL TO ORDER
A. COMMENTS FROM THE CHAIR
B. COMMENTS FROM THE PUBLIC4

 

Minutes of the FSCC Trustees for May 20

FORT SCOTT COMMUNITY COLLEGE
Minutes of the Board of Trustees Meeting
May 20, 2024
PRESENT: Ronda Bailey, John Bartelsmeyer, Bryan Holt, Chad McKinnis, and Doug Ropp
ALSO PRESENT: Sonia Gugnani-Acting Board Clerk, faculty, staff, community members
Chairman Holt called the meeting to order at 5:30 pm in the meeting rooms of the Ellis Fine Arts Center.
The meeting was opened with the Pledge of Allegiance.
COMMENTS FROM THE CHAIR: Chairman Holt announced Dr. Kegler would not be attending the night’s
meeting. He also introduced Justin Villmer who is assisting with the budgeting process and congratulated the
softball team on their recent win.
COMMENTS FROM THE PUBLIC: None.
REVIEW OF PROGRAMS – NURSING: Nursing Director Darcus Kottwitz highlighted recent events and
updates for FSCC’s nursing department. She said the department is excited by the interest in students returning to
the program, including 25 applicants for first semester. Students have spent more time in the simulation lab this
year. It allows them to experience situations in a safe zone. The program is preparing to move to the lower level of
the Hedges Administration Building for the fall semester. Nursing employees will attend the KSBN education
meeting on June 11, and ACEN will visit is in September, 2024.
STUDENT SURVEY UPDATE: Ashley Keylon provided an update of the recent student satisfaction survey. She
expressed gratitude to faculty for carving time out of their classes to administer the survey. The retention committee
will review the results and report more detailed results at a later date.
CONSENT AGENDA:
A motion was made by Ropp, seconded by Bailey, and carried by unanimous vote to approve the consent agenda
with the following revisions:
Table new hires to a later date with the exception of Missy Scott as VP of Finance and Operations, but
approve separations and transfers.
Omit Discussion Items A, B, and C
Omit Action Items C, D, E, and F.
ACTION ITEMS:
A. Resolution 2024 – 18: A motion was made by Ropp seconded by Bartelsmeyer, and carried by unanimous
vote to approve republishing the 22-23 audit as indicated.
B. Resolution 2024 – 19: A motion was made by Bartelsmeyer, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous
vote to approve republishing the 23-24 budget for Funds 11: General and 13: Adult Education.
C. Resolution 2024 – 24: A motion was made by Bailey, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote to
table consideration of the 2024 summer calendar until the special meeting being held on May 17.
D. Resolution 2024 – 25: A motion was made by Ropp, seconded by Bailey, and carried by unanimous vote to
approve the audit engagement letter with Jarred, Gilmore, and Phillips for the year ending June 30, 2024.
E. Resolution 2024 – 26: A motion was made by Ropp, seconded by Bartelsmeyer, and carried by unanimous
vote to approve the contract for Missy Scott as Vice President of Finance and Operations.6
REPORTS:
• ADMINISTRATION – The Board reviewed and heard updates from the Gordon Parks Museum,
Academic Affairs, and Student Services.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by McKinnis, seconded by Bartelsmeyer, and carried by unanimous
vote to adjourn to executive session for 20 minutes beginning at 6:17 pm for the purpose of discussing non-elected
personnel as it relates to discussion of identifiable personnel information of non-elected personnel with no action
expected to follow. The Board invited Carolyn Sinn to join.
OPEN SESSION: A motion was made by Bartelsmeyer, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote to
return to open session at 6:39 pm.
Sonia provided the feedback from the Perkins audit for the Board’s review. She also provided the written report that
was provided to KSBN regarding the nursing program’s progress addressing KSBN’s concerns.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by McKinnis, seconded by Bartelsmeyer, and carried by unanimous
vote to adjourn to executive session for 30 minutes beginning at 6:50 pm for the purpose of discussing non-elected
personnel as it relates to discussion of identifiable personnel information of non-elected personnel with action
expected to follow. The Board invited Sara Sutton, Sonia Gugnani, and Gina Shelton to join.
OPEN SESSION: A motion was made at 7:21 pm by Bailey, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote to
return to open session.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by McKinnis, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote to
adjourn to executive session for 20 minutes beginning at 7:22 pm for the purpose of discussing non-elected
personnel as it relates to discussion of identifiable personnel information of non-elected personnel with action
expected to follow. The Board invited Sara Sutton, Sonia Gugnani, and Gina Shelton to join.
OPEN SESSION: A motion was made at 7:42 pm by Bailey, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote to
return to open session.
A motion was made by Holt, seconded by Bartelsmeyer, and carried by unanimous vote to place Dr. Kegler on
administrative leave with pay effective immediately.
ADJOURNMENT: There being no further business to come before the Trustees, a motion to adjourn was made at
7:44 pm by Bartelsmeyer, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote.
Chairman Clerk7

Special Board Meeting of the FSCC Trustees on June 10

FORT SCOTT COMMUNITY COLLEGE
Minutes of the Special Board of Trustees Meeting
June 10, 2024
PRESENT: Ronda Bailey, Jim Fewins, Bryan Holt, and Chad McKinnis
ALSO PRESENT: Sara Sutton-Interim President, Juley McDaniel-Board Clerk, staff, public
Chairman Holt called the meeting to order at 3:02 pm in Cleaver-Burris-Boileau Hall.
The meeting was opened with the Pledge of Allegiance.
CONSENT AGENDA: A motion was made by Fewins, seconded by Bailey, and carried by unanimous vote to
approve the consent agenda.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote
to adjourn to executive session for one hour beginning at 3:05 pm to discuss personnel matters of non-elected
personnel as it relates organizational structure with no action expected to follow. The board invited Sara Sutton,
Sonia Gugnani, Missy Scott, Liza Erwin, and Juley McDaniel to join.
OPEN SESSION: At 4:07 am a motion was made by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous
vote to return to open session.
ADJOURNMENT: There being no further business to come before the Trustees, a motion to adjourn was made at
4:8 pm by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote.
Chairman Clerk11

Minutes of the FSCC Trustees for May 23

FORT SCOTT COMMUNITY COLLEGE
Minutes of the Special Board of Trustees Meeting
May 23, 2024 #2
PRESENT: Ronda Bailey, Jim Fewins, Bryan Holt, Chad McKinnis, and Doug Ropp
ALSO PRESENT: Sara Sutton-Interim President, Juley McDaniel-Board Clerk, staff, public
Chairman Holt called the meeting to order at 10:36 am in Cleaver-Burris-Boileau Hall.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by Ropp, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote to
adjourn to executive session for fifteen minutes beginning at 10:40 am to discuss personnel matters of non-elected
personnel discussion of identifiable personal information of non-elected personnel with action expected to follow.
The board invited Sara Sutton, Sonia Gugnani, Gina Shelton, Liza Erwin, and Juley McDaniel to join.
OPEN SESSION: At 10:55 am a motion was made by Ropp, seconded by Fewins, and carried by unanimous vote
to return to open session.
ACTION ITEMS:
Resolution 2024 – 27: A motion was made by Bailey, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote to
suspend men’s and women’s golf, Esports, and flag football programs and honor scholarships for those students for
the 2024-25 academic year.
ADJOURNMENT: There being no further business to come before the Trustees, a motion to adjourn was made at
10:56 pm by Fewins, seconded by Ropp, and carried by unanimous vote.
Chairman Clerk10
FORT SCOTT COMMUNITY COLLEGE
Minutes of the Special Board of Trustees Meeting
June 10, 2024
PRESENT: Ronda Bailey, Jim Fewins, Bryan Holt, and Chad McKinnis
ALSO PRESENT: Sara Sutton-Interim President, Juley McDaniel-Board Clerk, staff, public
Chairman Holt called the meeting to order at 3:02 pm in Cleaver-Burris-Boileau Hall.
The meeting was opened with the Pledge of Allegiance.
CONSENT AGENDA: A motion was made by Fewins, seconded by Bailey, and carried by unanimous vote to
approve the consent agenda.
EXECUTIVE SESSION: A motion was made by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote
to adjourn to executive session for one hour beginning at 3:05 pm to discuss personnel matters of non-elected
personnel as it relates organizational structure with no action expected to follow. The board invited Sara Sutton,
Sonia Gugnani, Missy Scott, Liza Erwin, and Juley McDaniel to join.
OPEN SESSION: At 4:07 am a motion was made by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous
vote to return to open session.
ADJOURNMENT: There being no further business to come before the Trustees, a motion to adjourn was made at
4:8 pm by Fewins, seconded by McKinnis, and carried by unanimous vote.
Chairman Clerk11

New Restaurant Opens in July

The Bowman family is opening another restaurant, west of their Brickstreet BBQ and calling it Outpost 13 West.

The facade of the new Southwestern-grill restaurant Outpost 13  West.

They opened Brickstreet BBQ in May 2023 and the restaurant has become popular with residents.

To view the story of that opening: Brickstreet BBQ Opens

The Bowman family now owns three restaurants in the historic downtown Fort Scott area.

“We love food!” Carissa Bowman said.  “AND it’s another opportunity to continue to grow our community through restoring a historic downtown building and generating more jobs.”

Carissa, Alex, Cindy, and John Bowman are the owners of Outpost 13 West. Carissa and Alex own Brickstreet BBQ.

Carissa and Alex Bowman, submitted photo.

“John and Cindy own Nu Grille (across the street from Brickstreet),” Carissa said. “They are Alex’s parents; my in-laws. Alex manages Nu Grille currently.”

Cindy and John Bowman. Submitted photo.

The new restaurant will feature Southwestern cuisine.

“You can build your own taco, burrito, bowl, salad or nacho,” Carissa said.

They plan to open the new venture at the end of July, she said.

The building is currenlty being remodeled by the Bowman family.
City permits are posted on the windows of Outpost 13 West.

The new restaurant is at 13 W. Oak St.

Special Recognition of the Brickstreet Restaurant

Brickstreet BBQ is located at the corner of Oak Street and National Avenue on Fort Scott’s northside.  The new Outpost 13 West is to the left, behind Brickstreet in this photo. The River Room Event Center is located on the second floor.

Brickstreet has been chosen to be featured on America’s Best Restaurants Roadshow:   https://americasbestrestaurants.com/

” We’re being featured in one of their episodes,” Carissa said. “Filming will take place on July 1st.”
“We hope this builds relationships with the public and surrounding areas to bring people not only to our business but Fort Scott as a whole,” she said. “We want to continue to create a positive image of Brickstreet so we can build our brand and keep growing!”

Kansas Earns Gold Shovel Award for Fourth Consecutive Year


TOPEKA
— Governor Laura Kelly announced today that Kansas has garnered Area Development magazine’s coveted Gold Shovel Award for the fourth year in a row. The latest accolade—without precedent in state history—reflects the economic development success the state has experienced under the Kelly administration.

“Earning a fourth Gold Shovel underscores the work my administration is doing to attract business investment and increase job opportunities to continue making Kansas the best place to live, work, and raise a family,” Governor Laura Kelly said. “The influx of jobs in every corner of the state is providing the possibilities for young Kansans to start or expand their careers right here at home.”

Since the start of 2019, Kansas has created 1,180 new economic development projects worth more than $19 billion in private sector investment and created and retained more than 67,000 jobs statewide.

Kansas was recognized for its achievement in attracting high-value investment projects that will create a significant number of new jobs throughout the state. In 2023, there were 255 projects totaling almost $3.1 billion in private sector investment and nearly 12,000 jobs created or retained. The single largest project was Building Materials Manufacturing Corporation’s $350 million facility in Newton.

“After years of decline — and Kansans fleeing to other states in search of economic opportunity — the Kelly-Toland Administration has Kansas back on a path of growth,” Lieutenant Governor and Secretary of Commerce David Toland said. “Kansans in every region of our state deserved greater opportunities, and we needed a strategic plan to breathe life back into our communities. This fourth consecutive Gold Shovel is proof that our plan, the Kansas Framework for Growth, is working. Kansas has jumped from the middle of the pack to the top of the heap, establishing a new normal as a nationally recognized economic powerhouse. We will continue to work tirelessly to ensure an even brighter future.”

The Framework for Growth, developed in partnership with communities, businesses, education institutions, and economic development stakeholders, focuses on five target sectors:

  • Advanced Manufacturing
  • Aerospace
  • Distribution, Logistics and Transportation
  • Food and Agriculture
  • Professional and Technical Services

These target sectors emphasize Commerce’s focused, purposeful approach to economic development. Ninety percent of the business successes announced during the Kelly-Toland administration came from one of the target sectors.

Area Development Magazine is a publication for economic development executives involved with corporate site selection and relocation. Five states were awarded the prestigious Gold Shovel in their respective population categories, with Kansas leading the list of the states with fewer than 3 million residents.

The top 10 projects from 2023:

  Company

  Location

  Investment   

  Jobs  

  Building Materials Manufacturing

  Newton

  $350 million

  137

  Walmart

  Olathe

  $257 million

  667

  High Plains Ponderosa Dairy

  Plains

  $168 million

  95

  Kiewit Corp.

  Lenexa

  $120 million

  723

  Camso Manufacturing

  Junction City

  $113 million

  181

  H&T Kansas

  De Soto

  $110 million

  180

  Koch Fertilizer

  Dodge City

  $93 million

  –

  Marvin Lumber and Cedar Co.

  Kansas City

  $76 million

  585

  Oppidan

  Olathe

  $70 million

  6

  Southwest Plains Dairy

  Syracuse

  $54 million

  45

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Vacation Bible School 2020 in Bourbon Countyu

If your church has a Vacation Bible School this summer, please send the name and address of the church, the date of VBS and times, the age group of children invited, and the theme of the VBS, to [email protected]. The following are Vacation Bible Schools for this summer that have been submitted.

First Baptist Church
The First Baptist Church, 123 Scott is hosting a One Day Vacation Bible School on Saturday, June 15 from 9:30 a.m. -1 p.m.  Lunch will be provided.  Children ages 5-12 are welcome to attend!

First Presbyterian and First United Methodist Combine Efforts

Denise Needham is the VBS director for the First Presbyterian and First United Methodist Church team.

This year, the First United Methodist Church is hosting the VBS at 301 S National Ave in Fort Scott Ks. From June 17th to 21st, 5:30 pm to 8 pm. Free Dinner provided.

The  theme is “Just like me: Digging in and Growing Deep”

It is for children going into Kindergarten through 5th grade. J

Fort Scott Church of the Nazarene

Fort Scott Nazarene church, 1728 Horton St. Fort Scott,  will have their VBS from June 24th-27th from 6:00-8:30 pm. with a
Scuba theme
See their website fsn. life or their Facebook page for more info.

Uniontown First Missionary Baptist Church

The Uniontown Baptist Church will have its VBS with the theme of God’s Backyard Bible Camp ‘Under the Stars’ on July 22-26, from  9 a.m. – 11:30 a.m. for ages 4 through 5th grade.
Each child can fill a Samaritan’s Purse Christmas Shoebox to send to a child overseas.  The school includes game time and bounce houses.
Bethel Community Baptist Church
Submitted graphic.

VBS K5-6th grade:
Church name: Bethel Community Baptist Church
Address: 1397 155th St, Fort Scott, KS 66701
Date: Wednesday, July 31st-Sunday, August 4th.
Time: 9am-noon.
Theme: On a mission for the Lord

Submitted graphic.

VBS 7th-12th grade:
Church name: Bethel Community Baptist Church
Address: 1397 155th St, Fort Scott, KS 66701
Date: Monday, August 5th-Thurs. August 8th.
Time: 6:30-9:00 pm.
Theme: Teen Challange

Learn About Appraised Values and Property Tax: Chamber Lunch and Learn

Join us!

Chamber Lunch & Learn

Wednesday, June 26th, from 11:45 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Empress Event Center, 7 N. Main St.

The Fort Scott Area Chamber of Commerce will host a Lunch & Learn on Appraised Values & Property Tax with Guest Speaker Matt Quick, Bourbon County Appraiser

Brickstreet BBQ box lunches are available by pre-order for $10 with choice of sandwich: pulled pork, smoked chicken or grilled chicken, and sides included will be cole slaw and chips – lunches need to be pre-ordered by 6/24 at 12pm.

Those planning to attend may RSVP here. (lunch orders being accepted online thru noon, Monday the 24th.)

Event will be from 11:45am to 1pm.

11:45am-12pm will be people arriving, getting their lunches.

Presentation will start at 12pm followed by Q&A.

Moderator will be:

Chamber Board Member Colleen Quick of Labconco

SPONSORS FOR THIS EVENT:

Bourbon County Cars and Labconco

 

This event is being organized by the Chamber Board Division of Business Resource & Workforce Development, Colleen Quick, Chair, Chris Barnes, Katie Casper, Sandra Davis, and Lewis Dunkeson.

Contact the Fort Scott Area Chamber of Commerce at 620-223-3566 for more information or visit fortscott.com.

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WinThe Person, Not the Argument by Patty LaRoche

Patty LaRoche. 2023.
Author: A Little Faith Lift…Finding Joy Beyond Rejection
www.alittlefaithlift.com
AWSA (Advanced Writers & Speakers Assoc.)

“Win the person, not the argument.”  I’m not sure who said that, but it’s super applicable if you want to live a Christ-like life.  That being said, it’s really, really, really hard to do.  It requires patience, unselfishness, diplomacy, compassion, kindness and humility, to list just a few attributes.

As a former debate coach (eons ago), I taught that the competitors needed to win both the judge (who hopefully would decide that the argument also had been won). Debaters entered a room and asked for the judge’s paradigm.  Novice judges (probably parents who had been guilted into judging by their children), if honest, would say that they had no idea what that meant.  Seasoned judges would say “tabula rasa,” meaning that their brain was a blank slate; they would depend upon the structure of the arguments to choose the winner and would be totally open-minded about the discussion. I’m not sure that’s possible, but it made the judge sound pretty cool.

We all know that life is not a structured debate where each person gets the same amount of time to defend, counter and question. Can you imagine disagreeing but setting the rules ahead of time?  And then sticking to the rules?  “We both get eight minutes to present our case.  Then we have three minutes to question what has been said…”

Arguments in the real world are…well, arguments, and sometimes they get heated. People interrupt.  Raise their voices.  Refuse to accept the validity of anything the other person says. My way or the highway.   Abraham Lincoln once said, “When arguing with a fool, make sure the opponent isn’t doing the exact same thing.”     Sound advice.

The Bible gives us a few examples of people who “argued” with God and won.  Moses pleaded with God not to kill the Israelites for worshipping the golden calf (Exodus 32: 9-14). Abraham convinced God to save Lot’s family when God determined to destroy Sodom because of its sinfulness (Genesis 18:16-32).  When Hezekiah became ill, he begged God to save his life and was granted another 15 years (2 Kings 20:1-11).

 

Proverbs 15:1 is often quoted as a reminder of how to handle a disagreement.  A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.         These people in the Bible showed respect to God when they disagreed with Him. There was no name-calling, no “You have no right to talk to me that way,” no misunderstanding about Who it was with whom they were differing.                                                                                                                                                        Recently, I overheard a conversation (argument) about our presidential candidates.  My stomach turned as voices raised, interrupted, ignored facts and made attacks personal, refused to find something valuable in what the other person said, and used the “You” attack regularly.  (Sidenote: unless paying a compliment, “You” statements have the potential to be derogatory or hurtful.)  You can guess the result of this attempt at political persuasion: neither party changed his mind.

To “win the person, not the argument,” we must take a learning approach.  Decide to listen to actually learn something instead of being heard.  Be able to say, “I’ve never thought of that” or “That’s an interesting idea” or even this one: “I think we should just agree to disagree” instead of letting the discussion ruffle our feathers.  If those don’t work, just tell someone that you’re a tabula-rasa kind of person.  Chances are, that might end the argument.