It’s not summer without kid’s games at the local county fair!  My four-year-old excitedly participated in the pig contest.  When his attempts to catch the animal failed, he wailed!  Are you like me as a parent, and try to make a tantrum stop?

Researchers at Berkeley University’s Greater Good Science Center have studied the meltdowns that can be frequent occurrences when children (and their parents) are frustrated and stressed.  The science behind tantrums tells us they aren’t breakdowns of behavior—they’re breakthroughs of communication.

Understanding what’s really happening during meltdowns can help us respond to our children in a way that supports them… and makes things easier for us, too!

Root Causes of Tantrums

Tantrums aren’t defiance—they’re a child’s way of expressing unmet needs. They often stem from:

• Frustration with independence: Kids get upset when they can’t complete tasks just beyond their ability.
• Limits and authority: Toddlers react strongly to boundaries, which may feel unfair to them.
• Sharing and social struggles: Young children lack the development to truly share, leading to meltdowns.
• Unmet basic needs: Hunger, tiredness, or lack of connection can quickly trigger tantrums.

Understanding these root causes helps reduce tantrum frequency and improves communication.

Is there a better way to respond to tantrums?

1. Stay Regulated yourself. Practice an exercise such as a breathing technique.  Reframe your mindset by stating ‘This isn’t personal, my child is dysregulated’.  This does not excuse difficult behavior but helps us respond with understanding rather than a surge of frustration ourselves.

2. Don’t punish, but don’t give in. Avoid dismissing your child’s emotions or punishing them during a tantrum. They’re not being defiant—they’re overwhelmed and need your help to calm down. Stay calm yourself; reacting with anger only escalates things and puts unfair pressure on your child to manage your emotions too.

3. Validate your child’s experience.
   After a tantrum, wait until your child is truly calm before talking. Use the Validation Ladder:

Be present: Give full attention, no distractions.

Reflect: “You felt angry when we left the playground?”  This tells your child their feelings matter.

Contextualize: “You were excited to play, so it makes sense you’re upset.”

Propose: Try digging a little deeper.  “Maybe you’re also worried we won’t come back soon?”

Empathize: “That sounds really disappointing.”  Be sure your voice tells you really mean what you are saying.

Take Action:  Think about what you could do differently.  “Next time, I’ll give a 5-minute warning.”

Validation helps kids feel understood—not indulged—and reduces future meltdowns.

4. Build support over time.
   As kids grow, they can express how they want support. Use calm moments to reflect patterns or offer choices: “Do you want me close or to give space when you’re upset?”

5. Stay curious.
   Look beyond behavior to understand the need or emotion driving it.

Parenting is not easy and it’s probably the most important job you can have.  I hope to navigate it well by continually learning.  For more information contact Tara Solomon-Smith, [email protected], 620-244-3826.

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Kansas State University Agricultural Experiment Station and Cooperative Extension Service

Back-to-school season seems to arrive faster each year, and with inflation affecting everything from pencils to backpacks, families are finding creative ways to shop smarter. While big-box stores may seem like the go-to for deals, shopping locally can be just as cost-effective and even more rewarding. Local businesses not only offer unique products and personalized service, but they also invest in your community. For every $100 spent at a locally owned store, about $68 stays within the community, supporting essential services and local programs.

As you prepare your student for the school year ahead, here are some practical ways to cut costs and support your hometown:

1. Shop Local First
   Small businesses often have lower overhead and more flexibility, which allows them to offer competitive prices or even negotiate with loyal customers. Many local shops carry school supplies, clothing, and backpacks, and they often have sales or consignment options that rival national retailers. Plus, you’re supporting the businesses that sponsor school programs, youth sports teams, and community events.
2. Take Inventory
   Before hitting the stores, check your home for leftover supplies from last year. Items like scissors, rulers, and even colored pencils might still be in great shape. Don’t feel pressured to buy everything new; reuse where you can.
3. Set a Realistic Budget and Watch for Sales!
   Establish your spending limit before you shop and leave some wiggle room for unexpected expenses, like school events or mid-year supply restocks. Be sure to include clothing, technology, lunch containers, and activity fees in your planning. Back-to-school sales start early, but you may find even better deals after school begins. Stock up on items you’ll need later in the year when prices drop. Some stores also match competitors’ prices, which can save time and gas money.
4. Plan Ahead for Next Year
   Back-to-school shopping is an annual expense—so start preparing early. Take the amount you spent this year, divide it by 12, and save that amount each month. Set up a dedicated savings account or create a labeled envelope to make it automatic and stress-free.

Beyond the savings, shopping locally has a long-term impact. Sales tax from local purchases funds critical services like police, fire departments, and road maintenance. Local businesses often stock unique, one-of-a-kind products and offer exceptional customer service rooted in personal relationships. They’re more likely to adjust inventory based on your needs and support community initiatives that enhance our schools and neighborhoods.

Your dollars matter—and when spent locally, they do double the good. This school year, think beyond the price tag. Support local. Save smart. Strengthen your community. For more information, contact Community Vitality Agent Amanda Clasen at any Southwind District office or [email protected].

As we get to the middle of July, it is county fair time. The Bourbon County fair closed
their Fair-y Tale County fair on Saturday, July 19, but Woodson County starts the
Barn in the USA County Fair on Friday, July 18th. Come out and catch all the
wonders of the county fair, from the beef cattle or dairy cattle -to the watermelon
feed and free breakfast on Sunday, July 20th.
At Neosho County’s Boots and Bling: it’s a Mardi Gras Thing; Families can watch Ty
Ellis and the Flatliners band on Saturday, July 26th at 8 pm or come try their luck at
the Horseshoe Tournament on Sunday, July 27th at 10 am. Each time you visit Friday,
July 25th and Saturday, July 26th, bring a canned food item to contribute to the
canned food drive, a community effort led by Neosho County 4-H Clubs in
partnership with the Farm Bureau.
Next, hop on over to Allen County’s Tropical “Fair”adise. You can come see all the
baby animals in the Baby Barnyard, open from 8 am to 10 pm Thursday, July 24th to
Friday, July 25th. Come out and support the 4-H youth exhibitors and their projects.
From Barn in the USA, Boots and Bling to a Tropical “Fair”adise or to a County FAIR-
y Tale: You can catch all the wonders from a livestock show to grand champion art
works. Come out and make memories.

Family Gatherings: At home safe food handling

One of the food safety steps that is often the most forgotten at outdoor picnics is also one of the most simple. Kansas State University food scientist Karen Blakeslee said while home cooks and
BBQ aficionados often remember to cook foods to the required internal temperature and store food appropriately, they sometimes derail their party by not washing their hands.

“When packing for picnics,” said Blakeslee, who also is coordinator of K-State’s Rapid Response Center for food science, “use a bottle of water and add soap so it is ready to use. Another idea is to take wet washcloths with soap to wash your hands.”

Hand wipes or hand sanitizer is best used after washing hands to remove visible dirt, she added. Hands may need to be washed several times during the prep and cooking stages, especially after
handling raw foods.

Washing hands is one of the four core food safety steps of clean, separate, cook and chill. Here are some other tips:

*Plan ahead. Bring such items as a food thermometer, cooler chest with ice, clean utensils, storage containers for leftovers, disposable dinnerware, paper towels and trash bags.

*Thaw food in the refrigerator or cook from the frozen state. Don’t thaw meat on the counter overnight or outside in the sun. Don’t partially cook meat and poultry ahead of time.

*Wash hands when you arrive at the picnic site. Don’t handle food until you’ve cleaned up. If running water is not available, use the supplies you’ve brought with you before and after touching food.

*Don’t leave food out in the sun. At the picnic, keep the cooler in the shade. Serve food quickly from the cooler and then return it soon afterward. In weather above 90 degrees F, food shouldn’t sit out of the cooler for more than an hour. Consider separate coolers for cold foods and hot foods.

Outdoor picnics are fun events, but handling food safely helps keep the fun in the event, too. Keep cold foods cold – below 40 F – by using ice or ice packs, for example. Keep hot foods hot – above 140 F – by grilling and eating immediately, or using insulated carriers to keep food hot. Use a separate cooler for beverages on ice.

Another tip is to pack a food thermometer to check cold and hot foods often for safety.

The recommended internal temperature to assure the safety of common foods include:

Steaks, chops – 145 F.
Ground meat – 160 F.
All poultry – 165 F.

Enjoy your family gatherings and keep these safe food handling tips in mind for the health of your family members.

For further information on food safety practices such as for the National Restaurant Association Nationally Accredited ServSafe Food Handler Certification, please contact Sandy Haggard, Nutrition, Food Safety, and Health Agent, Southwind District, [email protected] or 620.365.2242.

Fun in the Sun—But Stay Safe!

Enjoying time outdoors is important for our health and well-being, but it’s just as important to protect your skin while you’re at it. Skin cancer is the most common cancer worldwide, and the statistics are eye-opening: 1 in 5 Americans will develop skin cancer in their lifetime, according to the Skin Cancer Foundation. It affects people of all ages, skin tones, and genders. Melanoma, the most dangerous form, claims the lives of nearly 20 Americans every day.

Whether you’re working or playing outside, make sun safety part of your daily routine to reduce the risk of skin damage, premature aging, and skin cancer.

Sunscreen Tips

• Choose broad spectrum, water resistant 30 SPF sunscreen. Broad spectrum sunscreen will help protect from UVB and UVA rays. The Sun Protection Factor (SPF) indicates how well a sunscreen protects against sunburn.
• Do not use expired sunscreen. If you’re using enough sunscreen daily and when in the sun, you should not have any trouble utilizing a tube or can before it has expired.
• Use enough sunscreen to cover all exposed areas. Focus on the face, nose, ears, shoulders, feet, hands, back, arms, and even the back of your knees. Wide brimmed hats are encouraged, but if you’re not wearing a hat, be sure to apply sunscreen to your scalp.
• Apply sunscreen 15 to 30 minutes before going outdoors. It takes time for your skin to absorb the sunscreen to protect you.
• Reapply sunscreen at least every 2 hours. When swimming, sweating, or drying off with a towel, apply more often. With each application, use at least a golf ball-sized amount.
• Thoroughly rub in spray sunscreen. Simply spraying sunscreen on your body is not enough to ensure protection. Spray the sunscreen onto the body, out of wind, and rub in. Avoid inhaling spray sunscreen and do not spray the sunscreen near your face and mouth. Spray the sunscreen into your palm, then apply it to your face and ears.

Early Detection is Key for Skin Cancer

You know your body best. By examining your skin monthly, and looking for anything new or unusual, you can catch potentially dangerous conditions when they are still treatable. When performing a full-body monthly self-exam, face the mirror and check your face, ears, neck, under breasts, chest, and belly. Check your underarms, both sides of your arms, tops and palms of hands, in between fingers, and under your fingernails. Utilize a hand mirror to look at hard to see portions of your body. Wrap up your monthly self-exam by using a comb to part your hair to check your scalp. The American Cancer Society recommends specifically looking for:

• New, growing, or changing growth, a spot, or bump on the skin;
• A sore that bleeds and/or doesn’t heal after several weeks;
• Rough or scaly red patches which may crust or bleed;
• Wart-like growths;
• A mole (or other spot on the skin) that’s new or changing in size, shape, or color;
• A mole with an odd shape, irregular borders, or areas of different colors.

Next Steps

• Perform a monthly self-examination and look for anything on your skin. Schedule an appointment and visit your doctor or dermatologist immediately if you notice anything new, changing, or unusual on your skin.
• Schedule your annual skin cancer check.
• Purchase or locate broad-spectrum sunscreen, a wide-brimmed hat, UV sunglasses, and long-sleeved shirts and pants and utilize when outdoors.
• Brainstorm how you can increase skin protection in your community. Does your local daycare or grade school have adequate shade or policies in place that encourage hats and sunscreen to be worn when youth are outdoors?

Information for this article comes from K-State Extension’s Protect Your Skin from the Sun Fact Sheet. For more information contact Tara Solomon-Smith, [email protected], 620-244-3826.

Amanda Clasen- Community Vitality Agent

July 2025

Summer break is and can be full of opportunities for our kids: Sports, vacations, sleeping in, and a break from the school routine. But it’s also the perfect time to teach youth real-life lessons that often get overlooked during the busy school year, like how to manage money.

From lemonade stands to lawn mowing gigs, summer offers an abundance of ways for kids and teens to earn and spend their own money. That means parents, caregivers, and educators have a golden opportunity to help youth learn budgeting basics and develop lifelong financial habits.

Money management doesn’t have to be complicated. Start small with conversations about saving, spending, and sharing. Help young children divide their allowance into jars labeled “Save,” “Spend,” and “Give.” This visual approach teaches them that money has purpose and that not all of it is meant to be spent right away.

Older youth and teens can take it a step further by setting savings goals. Whether they want a new pair of shoes, a bike, or to start saving for college, having a goal in mind makes budgeting more meaningful. Try having them track their spending for one week or one month; the results might surprise both you and them!

Summer also brings real-world financial decisions: Will they buy ice cream every time the truck comes around, or save for something bigger? Can they stick to a budget at the county fair or amusement park? These small, everyday choices offer excellent teaching moments along with responsibility.

Teaching children to handle money doesn’t need to be difficult. It just takes a little time, patience, and practice. When youth learn to make smart money choices now, they’re better prepared for the financial responsibilities that come with adulthood.

So, this summer, skip the lecture and go for the lesson in the form of a lemonade stand, a school shopping plan, or a savings challenge. “Sweet savings” today can lead to even sweeter financial success tomorrow.

For more information or assistance, contact Community Vitality Agent Amanda Clasen at any Southwind District office or [email protected]

Gardens are growing, and more will be planted. Now is the time to prepare for preserving your harvest. It starts with equipment and recipes.

Jams and jellies, pickles, many fruits and most tomato products can be safely canned in a water bath canner. This is a large stock pot with a lid and a rack to keep the jars off the bottom of the pot. Make sure it’s the right kind of pot for the type of burners on your stove top. The pot must be tall enough so when jars are added the water covers the top of the jars by 1-2 inches. Learn more about water bath canning and also steam canning in the How-to Guide to Water Bath Canning and Steam Canning at this website: https://bit.ly/SouthwindPreserving

Pressure canning is required for all plain vegetables and meats. There are no instructions to water bath these foods. Stovetop pressure canners are the standard, and if you have dial gauge canner from Presto, National, Maid of Honor, or Magic Seal, our Southwind Extension offices can test the gauge for accuracy. We do not test All American canner gauges.

Use recipes that have been researched. The testing and research behind these recipes will get you on the right path to success. If you have your own favorite recipe, eat it fresh or freeze it for later use. More information on canning, freezing and dehydrating can be found on the Preserve it Fresh, Preserve it Safe website at https://www.rrc.k-state.edu/.

The Southwind District is planning to host a canning workshop this fall—stay tuned for updates by following us on Facebook! There are many ways to preserve food, and we’re here to help you do it safely and confidently. For more information, contact Sandy Haggard at [email protected] or 620-365-2242.

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Kansas State University Agricultural Experiment Station and Cooperative Extension Service

June is National Homeownership Month! Homeownership plays a vital role in our economy and can help build individual wealth, promote community stability, and improve overall health. But like any investment, a home requires regular maintenance to keep it in good shape.

As we enter the summer months, here are a few maintenance tips to keep your home in top condition:

Indoor Maintenance Tips:

• Ensure windows and doors open and close smoothly.
• Replace your air conditioner filter.
• Test ceiling fans for proper operation.
• Clean dryer vents and screens.
• Check smoke detectors and carbon monoxide alarms.
• Look for signs of leaks around windows and door sills.

Outdoor Maintenance Tips:

• Confirm water drains away from the house.
• Clean gutters and downspouts.
• Inspect shingles for damage or signs of leaks.
• Service your air conditioning unit before the heat hits.
• Check for peeling paint and make touch-ups as needed.

By addressing maintenance issues early, you can help prevent costly repairs down the road.

For a more detailed list, visit the National Center for Healthy Housing website for a spring and fall maintenance checklist and click on Healthy Homes Maintenance Checklist.

This article was written by Rodney Denholm, Chisholm Trail District Agent.  If you found this article useful, take a moment and provide feedback at https://bit.ly/49SMXra.  For more information contact Tara Solomon-Smith, [email protected], 620-244-3826.

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Kansas State University Agricultural Experiment Station and Cooperative Extension Service

As the days grow longer and the sun warms our sidewalks, there’s a familiar buzz in the air: summer is here, and with it comes opportunity.

It’s more than just a season—it’s a moment when our community shines its brightest. The farmers’ market hums with local produce. Sidewalk cafes fill with neighbors and newcomers alike. Downtown shops welcome foot traffic that brings stories, laughter, and support.

Summer tourism may feel like a visitor’s game, but it’s actually a community team effort. Every family that stops at the splash pad, every couple who books a B&B or grabs ice cream on Main Street—they’re more than tourists. They’re economic partners. When we support and promote local attractions, events, and businesses, we strengthen the very heartbeat of our town.

Whether you’ve lived here for decades or just moved in, you’re part of the hospitality that makes this place unforgettable. It starts with simple things:

• Sharing upcoming events on social media.
• Encouraging friends to attend the weekend music series or art walk.
• Choosing local vendors when planning a summer barbecue or birthday party.

Behind every storefront is a family, a dream, and often a neighbor. And in many cases, summer makes the difference between making it and closing up shop.

It’s easy to overlook the hidden gems in our own backyard. When someone asks for local events or places to visit, we often draw a blank—not because they aren’t there, but because we’ve grown so used to them. Need a reminder? Here are 5 simple ways to support locals this summer:

1. Shop the Farmers’ Market
   Buy fresh produce, handmade goods, and baked treats from local growers and artisans. Every dollar stays in the community!
2. Dine Local (and Post It!)
   Eat at family-owned restaurants, food trucks, or cafes—and tag them on social media to help spread the word.
3. Bring Guests Downtown
   Hosting out-of-town friends? Take them on a tour of Main Street, local parks, or community festivals.
4. Attend Local Events
   Music in the park, library programs, art walks, and small-town parades all thrive with your presence and participation.
5. Leave Reviews & Say Thanks
   A kind word goes a long way—online or in person. Leave a 5-star review for a local shop or just tell them you appreciate what they do.

This summer, let’s not just welcome visitors—let’s also rediscover the charm of our own backyard. Your support matters. Your presence matters. And together, we can ensure this season brings prosperity not just for a few weekends—but for the year ahead.

For more information, please contact Community Vitality Agent Amanda Clasen at any Southwind District office.